Advice I'd Give Myself at 15 - Part 1
I don't give unsolicited advice but I'm sharing my thoughts because I stumbled through most of my life lost and confused. I was desperate for direction, acceptance, and identity. I didn't have role models or mentors - didn't even know that was a thing. I never found that guidance as a child or even as a young adult and that's why I'm writing this. I'm writing for my Latinx raza and anyone that wants something "better" but has no idea what that "something" is and much less why it always slips away from them.
Life Is An External Reflection of Our Unconscious Beliefs
What you don't know you don't know drives ABSOLUTELY EVERY aspect of our lives. There are beliefs about ourselves and the world that are formed so early on and so deep, we don't question them because we don't realize they're there. Yet, they affect our everyday lives both positively and negatively. I didn't know how limiting these beliefs were for my career, relationships, and life in general.
If you want to know how much money you truly believe you deserve - look at your bank account.
If you want to know what kind of friendships and relationships you truly believe you deserve - look at the friends, family, and company you keep.
If you want to know what kind of career you truly believe you deserve - look at your resumé.
If you want to know how much you truly respect yourself (and the respect you believe you deserve) - look at your responses to the above.
Most of these beliefs are formed when we're children. Children raised in nurturing and loving households learn to respect and love themselves. It should come as no surprise that as adults, they accept nothing less than that and it shows in their finances, careers, and relationships. Now, someone like myself and a lot of my Latinx raza, that were raised believing we're subordinates and that our future is prison, death, or a life of crime, should not be surprised when we live up to that as adults. As adults, we're really just living out our unconscious beliefs - good or bad.
So the first piece of advice I'd give 15 year-old me is:
You cannot change your external reality until you change your internal beliefs.
Now, that doesn't mean we have no control over our own lives. Identifying these beliefs is powerful because once we're aware of them, we can change them, and consequently, every superficial aspect of our lives.